Hi Readers! I’m glad to say Jan is nearly over, it feels like it has been the longest month of my lifetime.
As some of you may already know or have read that I handed in my notice earlier this month (after the Christmas/ New Year holiday). I have been working full time since I was 16 with only a real small break (4 weeks) throughout my whole career and, I have finally made the decision to give up working for others and now work for myself. Before I get into that though, I would really like THANK all my readers, but I want to give a special thank you to those who have encouraged others to read this blog. Sounds cliché but my intentions was never to become a “Blogger”, not that there is anything wrong with that at all but; I really just wanted track my journey for other who also thought about becoming an entrepreneur but didn’t/doesn’t know where to start. For those who don’t want to become entrepreneurs and want to climb the career ladder, then this blog may not be for you from; however I would really like encourage you to continue reaching for more than you “think” you can achieve. I really didn’t want to be personal about my financial situation in this blog but I think its best, just so you guys can understand that moving up the financial ladder when working for others is easier than you think. In the space of a year I went from £23,000 to £40,000 without College or a Uni degree and that is Gospel (the truth). You should continue aiming higher, and don’t be afraid to be daring when it comes to salary. If you continue taking baby steps (£1k – £5k promotions), you’ll continue achieving small. Take giant leaps and go for what you really want and you’ll win big. (Also, I noticed the more you earn, the less you do. So go for it!)
Anyway, I can’t explain how much I want to leave right now. Even though I know I’m leaving soon, I am finding it hard to stick it out and finish my notice period. The office politics is really pissing me off more than anything to be honest… I might as well just make this blog my first and last personal blog as, Feb will be the start to my step-by-step blogs for transitioning.
So where do I start… Imagine, this woman who I work in the office with had the cheek to bad mouth me to my boss and I just so happened overhear her in the corridor. YEP that’s right, I heard the BI*** talking shit about me… So what happened was, I was about to walk in the corridor and I heard my name so I stood back and listened. My boss asked her if everything in the office was Ok and she went into one. She said and I quote:
1) “She storms in and out the office on her phone” … Bitch waaaaah. Yes, I do take personal calls outside of the office because I choose to not speak in front of others like she does, never will be they be for longer than 10 mins and neither do they happen regularly (less than the average cigarette break I see people taking). I do not “storm” in and out of my office, in actual fact my boss sits on another floor in the building so, I go upstairs 90% of the time to assist him as after all I am his f***ing PA, yes I might dial someone on my way but why would that be an issue?
2) “She doesn’t do anything for me, she just sits there”… I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, before Xmas I literally sat down with this wrinkly bitch and asked her if she wanted me to support her with anything and she told me to “No just book meeting rooms” for her diary which I had been doing. Also, how could I just be sitting here, I receive on average about 192 emails a day (including meeting invites) and all my emails are read and dealt with.
3) “She lost her spark”…. Well, I had a fucking miscarriage a few months ago, so maybe it’s the pregnancy glow she is talking about. On a serious note though, she might be a little right with this one. The fact that I was pregnant and had plans to leave this place straight after mat leave probably has a lot to do with why I am so hell-bent on getting out of here before March. I never had any intentions on coming back after mat leave other than to complete the required 3 months of work. I always had plans to start my business whilst on the maternity break. So I couldn’t get my head around staying here past my original plan. The miscarriage made me more determined to get everything I wanted to do out the way before I am blessed with a baby again. I’ll be honest, when I found out I was pregnant, I wasn’t happy. I was worried, I was worried about the fact I hadn’t achieved any of my goals I wanted to have achieved before I became a mother. I hadn’t travelled that much and always wanted those cute bikini pics, and I was scared that the pregnancy would ruin my body. I thought I was going to miss out on so much ; however I accepted what is was and was willing to work extra hard so my child could have the best life. GOD had other plans though and I ended up suffering from a missed miscarriage meaning the baby had died inside but hadn’t come out. I ended up having an aspiration (mini surgery) which was the worst pain of my life. I was confused, hurt, ashamed, embarrassed, felt guilt and discouragement. There was no reason for it, just one of those things. After I got through the 5 stages of loss, I started to see it as a blessing in disguise. I started to think, no it isn’t just one of things, that child came for a reason. It was time to wake up, is now my chance to get everything right, achieve everything and do everything I wanted to do. Travel, build and buy before I’m chosen to be someone’s mum again.So YES wrinkly bitch I lost my spark, I really don’t want to be here. So working for myself is the only option. I’ll be able to do everything I want to do, with no limits. Nethertheless, I am trying hard to stick it out because I don’t like the thought of being a quitter and I really need to learn to stick to my plans.
Anyway, more business and less personal…
When I opened by business account, I met a really cool banker who also has a family business he is involved in and he gave me some really good tips. He told me about online conferences for sales which I have ZERO experience in. I wouldn’t even know how to sell sweets to a child; however I am more determined to step out my comfort zone in order to be where I need to be. I came across this online video by a man named Victor Antonio an American Author, Business Consultant and Host. He done a reality show called “Life and Debt” and I would really recommend you listened to some of his conferences or YouTube posts. If you are willing to learn, you’ll really enjoy it. You’ll end up stumbling across more online conferences and videos and you’ll find answers to all your questions. Utilize the internet, instead of jumping straight on to snapchat, Instagram, or listening to Migos’s new album, listen to a conference or video on the way home. It’s really that simple. You don’t have to book a business course and spend months and money trying to learn the basics.
I also got myself some free financial advice. I am beginning to learn you cannot achieve success on your own meaning; you’re going to need an accountant, financial advisor, mortgage advisor, business partner and eventually an assistant. You CANNOT achieve your main goals alone. As much as we would like to think we can, we cannot. Obviously, you might need some money to get these services but nothing that is unaffordable so when you do start making some money, make sure you put those at the top of your list.
Lastly, I would like to encourage everyone reading this to get out your pen and note pad or, the notes app in your phone and start a monthly to-do-list and creating notes. I was having a conversation with my cousin a few weeks ago about how much a to-do-list has greatly impacted everything I have achieved this year so far. I was explaining to her that our mind/brain is amazing; it does so much at once. It is even controlling your eyes as you read this, making sure you are seeing and understanding every word written. So when you tell yourself you want to do something you need to write it down in a to-do-list or a notebook and believe me you’ll achieve majority it before the month is even out. It doesn’t have to even be business related; it just needs to be something you want to achieve like “repair IPhone screen”. See the thing is, when you write things down, you see it and remember it. So you’re much more likely get things done. It’s almost like a personal instruction to yourself. This then frees up space in your mind which enables you to start on whatever is next. Starting a monthly to-do-list was the best thing I could have done in 2018 so far. After speaking with her, I ended up stumbling across an article from Richard Branson who also states he would not be where he is now, if he didn’t write things down. https://www.virgin.com/richard-branson/why-everyone-should-be-taking-notes
Do these few simple steps and you’ll thank me later!
That’s it for now 🙂